Post-epiphany Criticism

It's just the point of view, and the perspective you hold. And that depends on - (a) your environment (b) how willing you are to actually be a part of your environment. If you completely cut yourself off and decide to remain inside your head and fester that thought process, even if wonderful things are trying to happen to you you will not let them. This reminds me of the whole 'the secret' by Rhonda Byrne concept (which I haven't read, by the way). But I'm not saying that positivity attracts positivity. That it sort of obviously already does, but how in the world is it possible to say - okay I'm going to be positive now? You can perhaps psychologically fool yourself into in after acquiring the skill with practice, but it doesn't really work that way. So how exactly do we transcend from the zone of not being susceptible to our environment to letting the positivity in?
I think we can do that through the process that critics like me call 'Forgetting' (sorry about the cynicism its all a result of the literary criticism theories we've been submerging ourselves in at college)

Today I had an elaborate discussion with a friend. She was criticising my behaviour and I was, with a lot of confidence and passion, contesting her own opinion about it. I concluded in quite a believable way (I was proud of myself) and actually proved my point very well. But at the end of the conversation, she was not convinced at all, really. She firmly stuck to her belief and her point of view, because that's exactly what it was, her point of view. How she felt because of me, because of things that I had done to her directly and indirectly and I realised that she was so effected by them subjectively that she could not possibly look at the situation objectively and out of the personal context that she was basing her criticism on. I realised then, that it did not matter what I said to her, she would not be convinced. She was not willing, and it was not that she was unwilling consciously, she was not even aware of the possibility that she could look at it objectively.
Now, I'm not saying that I know it all! Personally I'm in a situation where I'm so wrapped in myself and in my emotions and in the subjective context of my life that I cannot possibly try and understand it any other way, even if for my own good. It's just a very difficult human trait to acquire, perhaps even impossible, and I wish I knew how to do so. Guess I shall just have to revert back to the process that seems to work a little- 'forget' what I'm thinking about and keep my brain cells as active as possible in a non-destructive way.